How to Give an Extremely Sensual Erotic Massage: Tips and Techniques

An erotic massage session can never be truly satisfying and sensual if you do not plan things properly from the beginning. Taking your time to do various things that enhance the mood is almost as important as using your best massage techniques during the actual massage.

How do you set the mood?

Erotic massage sessions are meant to be both sensual and pleasant in every possible way. In order to make your experience satisfying for both of you involved, remember to follow all the steps given below as carefully and sincerely as you can:

Make your session very private

Before you begin the actual journey, take measures to ensure privacy. Turn off your phone, arrange your child to go somewhere, and get rid of any other potential distraction or interruption that may occur.

Pick a suitable location

Even though it is possible to give or receive massages on couches or on the floor, it is much more preferable to use the comfort of a bed. In addition to choosing a suitable massage spot, you must also keep certain that the temperature of the air is relaxing enough. That is, the room should not be too cold, or too hot.

erotic massage with escort serviceCreate an ambience that is sensual

In order to create an ambience that is romantic, as well as sensual, get the lights dimmed and play relaxing romantic songs in the background. Also, light a few massage candles that not only make your whole room magical, but also provide subtle sweet fragrance, along with bestowing romantic glow.

If you choose a massage parlour or a private escort service, everything should be already provided, if not you can buy massaging candles especially designed for giving romantic massages. Those candles not only assure romance in the air, but also turn into warm massage oil after melting – oil which is truly ideal to give warm sensual massages.

Suggest your partner a bath

Before starting your massage routine, ask your partner to indulge in a luxurious romantic bath having candles, bath salts and other sensual elements. After your partner gets bathed, he or she will be very fresh. That is a very ideal state to be in when it comes to enjoying an erotic massage to follow.

The actual massaging part

Erotic massages and if they are to be followed by passionate sex, are meant to be personal and sensual in nature. These are used in order to heighten the senses and arouse both the persons involved. So, you need not get all worked up about the perfect techniques. Instead, just focus on massaging your mate sensually enough to get him or her excited. Focus on making it enjoyable.

Start with slow and gentle movements. As long as you are sensitive toward your partner’s reactions, you will be able to adjust your massaging technique effectively to please him or her. It is not possible to give great massages without practice; however, you must also remember that it is nearly impossible to deliver someone a bad massage. Just focus on making your strokes rhythmic and tender.

In order to begin, simply get little bit of massage oil on your hands, or some cream, and warm the same before you start rubbing. In case you decide to use the oil provided by massage candles, you will not have to warm since the oil will be warmed already slightly above the normal body temperature after being melted.

There is no wrong or right place to start your massage. However, most people prefer their partner to lie with his or her back facing the wall. One way is to start near the shoulders, and then gradually massage the neck area. Then, go down the shoulder region again, and after that massage the arms, which should be followed by upper back part, lower back part, and buttock region. After that comes thighs, then calves, and at last, the feet!

After massaging the back, you can request your partner to lie on the opposite direction. After that, you can choose to start toward the feet, and then go up his or her body. Many people like to massage the feet followed by the legs, and then skip directly to rub the upper part of the body. Then, they move back to the stomach region, and gradually touch the pelvic area. Note that it is often desirable to spend more time massaging certain areas than others. Also, certain areas require deep strokes, while certain other body parts respond best to soft massages. Experiment to find out what works in which area and what does not.

Make your movements continuous, and try not to interrupt the flow. That way, you will be enhancing the overall intimacy. As erotic massages are meant to arouse the receiving person, continuous movements often show best results.

Communication is important, especially if you have never got engaged in couple massages before. You do not have to ask questions with every movement. However, occasionally asking whether your partner would like softer and slower motions on a particular area should be good.

In addition, pay close attention to the breathing patterns exhibited by your partner. You will know what makes him or her aroused if you pay enough attention.

You will not be able to find the absolute right way of giving erotic massages even if you try, because such a thing does not exist. Giving a great massage is all about being attuned to the reactions of your partner, and gauging his or her movements correctly. With experience you will be able to judge things more accurately, and give better massages. For the time being, enjoy your erotic massage sessions to experience heightened romantic emotions in your relationship.

Tantra is Not Just Sex

The western version of Tantra that focuses on relationship and sex according to Feuerstein is termed Neo-Tantra. He believes that people who were raised in repressed atmosphere have a lot of benefits from it, and for those who think they have outgrown conventional sexuality and guilt ridden-Puritanism.  Feuerstein however, shows that he worries for the qualification level of the teachers. He is bothered that enough text books and materials are yet to be studied by the teachers. He is also bothered that the training that these teachers have is not adequate for them to effectively and efficiently train more students.

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Feuerstein is of the opinion that the lapses in the training which the teachers on western Tantra received is not dangerous or risky in any regard for the student, even though the texts from ancient times do not relent in spelling out the risks of Tantra. Only a teacher who was taught by someone who has successfully raised their own shakti can arouse energy in an amount that can b risky for the student. In other words, the physical and mental balance of the student cannot be rocked except they are being trained by a guru.

Furthermore, Feuerstein is not bothered that there is a probability that instead of learning to move beyond or surpass egos, the practitioners of Neo-Tantra can be engulfed in egoistic motivations. He asserts that harnessing the 2nd Tantra which is sexual center was not how it was started in more traditional Indian Tantra; instead, it was started by harnessing the 6th chakra which is the seat of intuitive wisdom, the third eye or by harnessing the 4th chakra which is the heart.

The stupendous power of sexuality was invoked only when it was apparent that the adept was skilled enough to completely control energy and had genuine and pure intentions. He stated that Tantra practitioners are likely to enjoy a blast of enhance life energy (Prana) and deceive themselves into believing that they are getting spiritual experiences; this he fears is the biggest danger of Neo Tantra. He is worried that most practitioners of Tantra will miss out on the highest benefit Tantra has to offer which is the ecstasy of union with all beings just because they wrongly take physical pleasure for spiritual bliss.

tantra trainingA right hand Tantra teacher who goes by the name of Rod Stryker is an initiate in the custom of Sri Vidya – Tantric master. He studied under Tantra master Yogiraj Mani Finger and re asserts the worries of Feuerstein about the contemporary western Tantra. Stryker says that he has worked with so many people as a yoga teacher and consequentially has treated so many people who were traumatized by the encounter of direct sexuality disguised as a Tantra tool for teaching.

Stryker also said that Tantra’s left hand-path sexual techniques known as maithuna were seen as the drivers that prompt psychic energy due to its strength, some schools see them as a way round techniques like pranayama and asana which are the basic techniques. However, Stryker stated that the sexual techniques were never seen as a substitute for increasing utilization of meditation, pranayama an asana by the right-hand path. Stryker also stated that the sexual techniques can establish psychic disturbances and pose dis-integrating outcomes if Nadis (energy channels in the body) is not as clear and as open as possible.

He also noted that very little aspect of the pranayama and asana could have been done by people who do weekend of Tantra. They can end up energizing their neuroses if they are neurotic. They will feel a lot of energy moving and the vital energy may be awakened.

Stryker just like Feuerstein emphasizes the distinction between bliss and pleasure as well as the importance of a guru. He says that 3 distinct ecstasy stages were identified in the Tantra he was taught. They are the physical, psychic and spiritual. A seeker can only achieve enhanced sensory awareness as well as the required amount of energy to modify his or her life to line up with the spirit’s awareness in the second stage of the ecstasy.

As soon as the seeker has geared up the level of consciousness affiliated with every chakra in the third stage, he or she can apply the correct level tosacred tantra any situation, ecstasy then becomes constant. Stryker is bothered that students are likely to get stuck at the first stage if there is no experienced tantric master to guide them.

Stryker is also of the opinion that that teachers of Tantra should be examined by their students on the basis of the answers to these two questions; how much of the tantric principles is evident in the life and relationships of their teacher? Secondly, how much of the teachings are imbibed by the students of their teacher? Stryker hopes that teachers at the very least can teach their students to understand that “physical ecstasy is just an aspect of the Tantra benefits” whether they are qualified to be complete Tantra masters or not.

Tantra supporters are passionate about its capacity to modify lives of people and the world at large, irrespective of its perils or limitations of it being adjusted to suit the western world. “as soon as all five senses are opened by an individual and you’ve allowed yourself to engage with life at all levels, you may discover that you have undergone a transformation” this is the position of Margot Anand.

At this point, it is highly unlikely that you will want to return to your old life that doesn’t accommodate your playfulness, creativity and capacity to be happy. Participants were advised to see the work as an avenue to pass on a healthier, sexual legacy to their kids and grandkids and not just for their personal benefits. This advice was given by Charles and Caroline Munir.

While responding to criticism from more traditional Tantrikas, Charles firmly insists that he and Caroline teach Tantra in the spirit of ancient principles and doctrines even though it takes a different form.
He says “We try to gear up and integrate the inactive energy of the chakras, just as it was done in traditional India. Munir claimed that while describing his adjustments, you do not need ever Indian culture trapping and approach in order to enjoy the advantages of Tantra”.

Muir readily confesses that modern Western Tantra may not look every bit like its antecedents from ancient times. However, pointing out the vast historical range of Tantra practices, he identifies that Tantra just like yoga has been re-born over and over again on the basis of need at each point in time.”

He believes his Tantra technique covers the major requirements of our age: bring back correct reverence for females and the womanly; finding a suitable, beneficial outlet for masculine “warrior” energy; and the rift between women and men – healed.